Ah, the original post (http://www.livejournal.com/users/campfollower/947.html) that I saw on the topic, does make reference to nice girls confining their snarkiness to private places, which does carry a certain inference of a lack of honesty.
And I have seen some of the people commenting on the posts supporting the need for LJ to be a nicer / more polite place, and thought that they have been on occasion quite rude to and about others so I'm not entirely convinced of their bona fides.
Perhaps they are all going to turn over a new leaf and I am being overly cynical.
I also think, after several years on LJ, that there are some people for whom any disagreement from their opinion / tastes / views is threatening, no matter how courteously that dissent is phrased. The mere lack of agreement is enough to threaten their sense of themselves and their place in the world.
When I first started on LJ I thought of it as more of a diary as so few people were reading. Now, with a larger flist, I have to be more courteous not just to my flist but with an awareness of the flist of my flist.
*wry* I hear you on that one. Even when you sprinkle "personal opinion" and "private individual" all though a post, some people just can't deal with any gray shade between word/amen/etc. and 'you worthless idiot with no right to live'. Then, too, private versus public is a very strange thing on LJ.
*thoughtful* Though it might actually be one of the core issues in this whole ball of yarn. I do think there's merit in the idea that private behavior should have different standards for courtesy and... well, advisability, than public behavior. So I'm not in complete disagreement with the notion of keeping one's snarking private, nor do I think that automatically equates to backstabbing dishonesty. But when one never knows just how many people read a public personal journal, or who might be browsing their friends-friends list and find it, or who might have been unwisely included in, say, a private rant filter... then the question of what is private becomes pretty darn pointed.
*makes face* What I'd reall love to see is everyone exercising a little more basic judgement. As opposed to judgementalism. I expect I'm doomed to disappointment, but every sane, reasonable conversation makes me hope again. So thank you. ^_-
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And I have seen some of the people commenting on the posts supporting the need for LJ to be a nicer / more polite place, and thought that they have been on occasion quite rude to and about others so I'm not entirely convinced of their bona fides.
Perhaps they are all going to turn over a new leaf and I am being overly cynical.
I also think, after several years on LJ, that there are some people for whom any disagreement from their opinion / tastes / views is threatening, no matter how courteously that dissent is phrased. The mere lack of agreement is enough to threaten their sense of themselves and their place in the world.
When I first started on LJ I thought of it as more of a diary as so few people were reading. Now, with a larger flist, I have to be more courteous not just to my flist but with an awareness of the flist of my flist.
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*thoughtful* Though it might actually be one of the core issues in this whole ball of yarn. I do think there's merit in the idea that private behavior should have different standards for courtesy and... well, advisability, than public behavior. So I'm not in complete disagreement with the notion of keeping one's snarking private, nor do I think that automatically equates to backstabbing dishonesty. But when one never knows just how many people read a public personal journal, or who might be browsing their friends-friends list and find it, or who might have been unwisely included in, say, a private rant filter... then the question of what is private becomes pretty darn pointed.
*makes face* What I'd reall love to see is everyone exercising a little more basic judgement. As opposed to judgementalism. I expect I'm doomed to disappointment, but every sane, reasonable conversation makes me hope again. So thank you. ^_-
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