You just put your finger on the juncture between Embers and A:TLA. And it totally explains my feelings about both of them, because, yeah, I read FY, and I wanted to slap some sense into Miaka just about as much as I want to do the same to Aang. (And I generally like shounen teen-age series much more then shoujo.) I have to knit or spin or do something while watching A:TLA in order to not wince and hide more often.

*ambles off to reread Embers*